theamazingdalet:

shacklefunk:

how to radically improve ur experience on tumblr.com:

• mercilessly block all Fuckers. do not reply to them, do not “justify” blocking them. the goal is to get them out of ur life, not “win” a conflict
• unfollow anyone who isnt actively improving ur quality of life. u dont owe the people u follow ur attention. if they arent producing content/posts that your benefit from in some way, u dont have to stick around. its not personal.
• u dont have to care at maximum capacity about everything. ppl like to signal boost and spread awareness and thats great, but its ok to just not have the energy to do that. u dont have to feel guilty about using ur blog for YOUR purposes. thats what its for
• if u need to, turn anon off. theres no shame in that. it works.
• if someone is raising a concern with you or reacting critically to something youve said or done, listen to them with empathy rather than getting angry. not everyone is trying to start a fight when they call u out on doing something hurtful, and if u react angrily on a knee-jerk reaction to someone who was just trying to help, ur gonna look like an asshat
• if u feel like ur about to look like an asshat, its advisable to get up and do something else for a while until youve cooled down and can think rationally. u dont have to reply right away
•  “tone” is pretty subjective, so try not to fight with people over it
• u dont have to fight with every motherfucker who says some ignorant or passive aggressive shit on ur posts. just block them. they can be wrong all by themselves.
• just block them
• abuse the block function
• it is there for u to use it

about unfollowing specifically, i hate how personal it is on tumblr. back on lj, you could be friends with people without seeing their posts on your friends page. there were LOADS of options that way

here on tumblr, there’s only one dash per person. blocking someone’s url via xkit or w/e only works on one platform, so the only 100% way to not see someone’s posts is….to unfollow

there needs to be more room in tumblr etiquette for “i like you, but i’m taking you off my dash.” PLEASE don’t assume someone hates you necessarily just bc they unfollowed. i lost a good friend here that way, which surprised me bc we both came from lj. i wish it weren’t so fraught